Bachelor fans are having a hard time keeping up with Peter Weber’s dizzying love life. After he broke off his engagement to Hannah Ann Sluss to pursue Madison Prewett, who he also broke up with not long after, Peter became linked to Kelley Flanagan, yet another woman who competed for his heart on the reality show. This all happened in a matter of weeks.
While Peter and Kelley haven’t addressed whether or not they are dating, Peter’s ex-fiancee, Hannah Ann, has a lot to say about the rumored relationship.
“I was completely blindsided by a lot, if it has been going on all along that would be very sneaky,” she told Bachelor Nation’s Nick Viall — who was also rumored to be linked to Kelley at one point— on Instagram Live (via E! News). “Honestly, when I saw it, I wasn’t really surprised, because that’s been the pattern, everything going in all directions.”
Hannah Ann Sluss is over Peter Weber
Hannah Ann has not been holding back when it comes to Peter. After he broke off their engagement, she called him out on his shady behavior. “Peter, we’ve been through a lot together, and I should have really picked up on the first red flag to give to me, when you wanted to reach out to Hannah Brown to find closure with her, so looking back on it, our engagement involved three women, me, you still being in love with Madison and proposing to me, and your need for closure with Hannah Brown,” she said. “That is three women involved in our engagement.”
She’s not letting the news that there may have been a fourth woman involved in their engagement faze her, though. Hannah Ann has made it clear that she’s moved on from her ex. Not only has she deleted all traces of Peter from her Instagram, but she’s also dating again.
She previously told Nick that she’s “getting to know lots of different people” but there’s “one person in particular” that she is looking forward to dating when people no longer need to practice social distancing.
THERE has been a lot of confusion over whether pets can catch or carry coronavirus, with global officials saying that it wasn't possible.
Then two dogs in Hong Kong were diagnosed recently, with one of them even dying from it, and a Belgian cat caught it off her owner.
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Can pets get coronavirus?
Generally no. Experts have previously said that pets cannot contract coronavirus, but, as with humans, they could pick it up from surfaces just like we can.
Widespread advice has been given globally reassuring pet owners not to worry about their pets during the pandemic.
Official Government lines published on March 27 state that "There is no evidence of coronavirus circulating in pets or other animals in the UK and there is nothing to suggest animals may transmit the disease to humans.
"However, in line with the general advice on fighting coronavirus, you should wash your hands regularly, including before and after contact with animals."
There have been extremely rare cases, such as two dogs that contracted the virus in Hong Kong.
In both cases, the dogs contracted the virus from their owner, the first dog that caught it-died just two days after being released from mandatory quarantine on February 26.
There has also been a single case in Belgium of a woman giving her cat the virus a week after she started showing symptoms, but this is the first case in Europe and the cat is now fine.
The World Organisation for Animal Health has reiterated that there is no evidence to suggest pets can pass the virus to their owners.
A spokesperson from Belgium's National Council for Animal Protection said: “Let's not go back to a dark medieval period when ignorant people hunt and kill cats for fear that they will pass on the plague.”
Please do not abandon or stop giving your animals attention.
Can I still take my pet to the vet during lockdown?
All non-essential trips to vets should be avoided.
If your pet needs urgent treatment, you must phone the vet to arrange the best approach to meet your pets’ needs.
What should you do about walking the dog if you think you may be infected?
If your dog cannot exercise at home, you should ask someone outside of your household to walk your dog for you.
If you do not have symptoms of coronavirus:
You may leave your house to exercise once a day and you should combine this with walking your dog.
It is important that you minimise the time spent outside of the home and remain two metres away from anyone outside of your household.
Remember to wash your hands and remain 2 metres away from anyone outside your household.
Walking someone else's dog:
This counts as caring for a vulnerable person, which includes those self-isolating or being shielded.
Remember to wash your hands before and after handling the dog and keep two metres away from other people and animals while walking, including when handing over the dog to the owner.
Have pets been tested for Covid-19?
A Pomeranian in Hong Kong was found to have traces of Covid-19 after its owner was diagnosed with the new virus.
The weak positive test "simply means that a small piece of viral genome was detected in a sample," says vet Sarah Caddy, a clinical research fellow in viral immunology at the University of Cambridge.
A test used to detect genetic material "is a highly sensitive method of testing but is unable to tell whether coronavirus was replicating in the dog or whether the dog had simply licked contaminated surfaces in the home", she added.
And Dr Jessica May, UK lead vet at video service FirstVet, explained: "The most likely reason for the dog to have mildly positive results was due to breathing contaminated air from the owner.
"However, the dog was not showing clinical signs."
In the US, IDEXX Laboratories Inc evaluated thousands of canine and feline specimens during validation of a new veterinary test system for the Covid-19 virus.
The lab reported today that results echoed "the current expert understanding that Covid-19 is primarily transmitted person-to-person and supports the recommendation against testing pets for the Covid-19 virus."
What if pet owners are still worried about Covid-19?
For dogs or cats with respiratory problems, the experts' recommendation is to contact a vet to test for more common respiratory pathogens.
Jay Mazelsky, CEO of IDEXX Laboratories, said: "Pets are important members of our family, and we want to keep them healthy and safe."
Dr Jessica May has recommended pet owners should seek advice "if you fear that your pet is infected with a strain of coronavirus."
To try and keep you and your pets safe, you should keep social distancing from others and follow any guidelines given by the RSPCA during coronavirus.
Captain Lee Rosbach from Below Deck joined friend and producer Jaime Primak Sullivan on an Instagram Live chat where he dished about the show.
Sullivan asked Rosbach how he felt about filming season eight without chief stew Kate Chastain. Fans on the feed wanted to know more about her departure, to which Rosbach replied that fans would have to ask her directly. But he admitted that last season, season seven was the hardest for him. “That was a tough one for me,” he told Sullivan.
During their short time on the live feed, Sullivan allowed fans to ask as many questions as possible. She knew Rosbach couldn’t address certain questions, especially about season eight, but Rosbach was able to answer questions about previous crew members he’d work with, what it’s like to have a camera crew filming you while you work and how he felt about hookups.
Rosbach knows that hookups are going to happen
Captains know crew hookups happen but how they feel about them can be very personal. Captain Glenn Shephard from Below Deck Sailing Yacht said he’s open to having couples work on his yacht.
“I’m open to couples on board, whether they come on board as a couple, even if they hook up on board because we live in very close quarters, he told Showbiz Cheat Sheet in February. “But that can always lead to drama and you’ll see a little bit of drama related to romance between crew members.”
Rosbach laughed when Sullivan wondered if he was concerned about “young people fornicating” on the boat. “It’s not like you’re going to stop it from happening,” he said. “You can sit there and say ‘don’t do it’ all you want, but that’s not gonna happen.”
He’d work with these crew members (or not)
He was also asked if he’s work with João Franco from Below Deck Mediterranean and Eddie Lucas from earlier seasons of Below Deck. Rosbach couldn’t exactly comment on whether or not he’d work with Franco since the two have never been on the same show. But he said he’d work with Lucas again.
What about working with third stew Raquel “Rocky” Dakota? “Probably not,” he said. “Her heart just wasn’t into doing what she was doing. I think she had a different agenda there. And it didn’t fall into what I needed to have done.” Dakota and Chastain had a tense relationship when she was on the show. When the two recently came together during the 100th-anniversary celebration and it appeared their relationship hadn’t gotten any warmer.
Fans also wanted to know what Rosbach thought of chef Ben Robinson. Robinson has been the crossover chef between Below Deck and Below Deck Med and truly a fan favorite. “Ben was our chef for a few years and did some Below Deck Med and Ben’s a character,” Rosbach remarked. “He’s a lot of fun. He’s a charismatic guy and a very talented chef.
Does he find it challenging to captain the boat while being filmed?
One aspect fans love about the show is that they get a peek into how a crew works and lives together on a luxury superyacht. Sullivan pointed out that Rosbach has a serious job where he needs to keep the crew and guests safe. Does having cameras in his face 24/7 impact how he does his work?
“I have a job to do,” he insists. “I just happen to be a captain that gets filmed doing his job. So my job is to make sure the guests have a great time and that my charter guests are taken care of. My crew do their jobs to the best of their ability. And if they have another agenda when they get on board, I’m sorry, it’s got to fit my agenda. It’s not a democracy. You don’t get a goddamned vote.”
He adds that the cameras have never interfered when it comes to safety on the boat. “They always, always get it and they always acquiesce,” he remarks. “Safety is paramount.”
Hailey Bieber is one of the models of the moment, who has achieved even greater fame since her marriage to singer Justin Bieber. Hailey Bieber is a member of the prestigious Baldwin family, and as the daughter of actor Stephen Baldwin, she has been surrounded by celebrities, privilege, and wealth.
Bieber travels all over the world for modeling shoots and has been to some truly exotic places. However, Bieber has no problem staying connected to friends and family and likes to show her devotion to her favorite people through a multitude of tattoos.
Hailey Bieber was born Hailey Baldwin in 1996, in Tucson, Arizona. Raised alongside her sister, Alaia, she started modeling when she was still very young.
Still, her initial career preference was to be a ballerina, and Bieber religiously studied ballet until she suffered a foot injury and was unable to complete the challenging routines. Bieber returned to the world of modeling, and in short order, was walking the runway for brands like Vogue, Ralph Lauren, and UGG.
Bieber has worked as an actress and TV host in addition to her modeling work and has appeared in several music videos, including Cody Simpson’s “On My Mind” video. With all of her professional achievements, Bieber has probably received the greatest amount of press for her relationship with Justin Bieber.
The two started dating in 2015, briefly split in 2016, and then reconciled in early 2018, tying the knot later that year. They have been together ever since and recently threw a grand second wedding ceremony for their close friends and family.
Hailey Bieber prefers tiny tattoos
Hailey Bieber loves tattoos, there’s no doubt about it. She has around twenty tattoos in total, most of them very small, easily hidden when doing modeling shoots.
In particular, she likes finger tattoos, and has several on both her left and right hands. A few of her tattoos include roman numerals on her wrist, the letter “g” behind her ear, which she got as a tribute to her friend Georgia Veach, and the word “gente,” which means “people” inscribed on her hip.
Bieber also has a black star tattoo on the inside of her pointer finger, the word “seek” written on the back of her neck, and the word “unseen” tattooed on the curve of her spine. Bieber is known to be religious and has several Bible-inspired tattoos, including a tiny cross tattoo on her neck and several tattoos that reference Bible verses.
Hailey Bieber loves to get matching friend tattoos
Along with Bible verses and religious-inspired imagery, Bieber has a number of tattoos that she got specifically to match with members of her friend group.
She has a broken heart tattoo on her finger, done in red ink – that tattoo was done to match her best friend, Kendall Jenner, who has the same tattoo, but in white ink.
Bieber also has a matching tattoo with her cousin, fellow model Ireland Baldwin (Alec Baldwin’s daughter). Both cousins have the word “Baldwin” inscribed on their fingers in a lower-case font, a symbol of how proud they are of their shared family heritage.
Bieber’s tattoo artist of choice is celebrity tattoo artist JonBoy. He specializes in tiny tattoos and has worked on celebrities like Justin Bieber, Kendall Jenner, and Travis Scott. Hailey Bieber is one of his most devoted clients — and judging by the number of tattoos she already has — more than 19! —she will likely be visiting him a lot more in the future.
Después del #clasico un asadito con amigos/After the #classicmatch a BBQ with friends!
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Alcohol intake, of course, was also banned. As was Messi's love for fizzy soft drinks.
They were replaced with more organic and fresh foods, mineral water and South American caffeine-rich infused drink, yerba mate tea.
“Vegetables, seasonal fruits and a good mineral water are essential fuels for our muscles.
"You have to reduce the intake of processed foods or foods contaminated with pesticides, herbicides, antibiotics, medications,” Poser says.
BACH FLOWER REMEDIES
But it wasn't just about diet.
As part of his more colourful approach, Poser encouraged Messi to undertake emotional work, psychotherapy and take Bach flower remedies.
The latter might seem like a hippified solution in combating stress and anxiety, but the Bach flower is said to restore the balance between mind and body.
The science says it targets the limbic system, a part of your brain that deals with emotions, memories and arousal.
What are Bach flower remedies?
Bach flower remedies were developed by English homeopath Edward Bach in the 1930s.
Bach claimed that dew found on the petals of wild flowers could be used as a complimentary medicine to relieve ill health by influencing underlying emotional stress.
They are believed to gently restore the balance between mind and body by casting out negative emotions including fear, indecision, hatred and worry that can interfere with the equilibrium of the person as a whole.
It's been claimed that Bach flower remedies encourage peace and happiness, leaving the body free to heal itself.
"Disease of the body itself is nothing but the result of the disharmony between soul and mind," Dr Bach said.
"Remove the disharmony, and we regain harmony between soul and mind, and the body is once more perfect in all its parts."
And it's not just footballers who are engaging in Bach flower remedies, several movie stars are also believers.
Actresses Salma Hayek, Cate Blanchett, Jennifer Aniston and Emma Watson have all revealed in the past that they take the holistic medicine to keep calm under pressure.
By simply dissolving a number of drops on your tongue or in water, fear, worry, hatred and indecision are believed to be allayed.
Lighter by 3 kilos, Messi came back by firing in the 2014-2015 season – scoring 58 goals – he'd managed 41 the previous year.
He also played an additional 11 games that he might've missed through injury in the past.
Poser's advice put Messi in good stead and has helped him prolong his status at the top of the game.
VISITS TO POSER STOPPED
When he became Barcelona captain, succeeding Andres Iniesta, Messi's visits to Poser stopped.
Now, the diminutive maestro pins his hopes on Dr Maria Antonia Lizarraga Dallo, who leads Barcelona's nutrition team.
But Poser is well aware of the effect looking after the well-being of one of sports' biggest names has had on his life.
"I’d say the Messi effect turned my life upside down, especially during the first three months, because the phone never stopped ringing and journalists appeared from all the corners of the world, who I didn’t see, of course," he told Mundo Deportivo.
"That affects anyone’s day-to-day, ever more for a person like me, living a very calm life.
"But, all around the world they’ve seen and they see Messi, and since then they can’t no longer doubt my method. It can be seen every week."
HIGUAIN AND DYBALA
And Messi isn't Poser's only success story. Gonzalo Higuain came to the Italian with a crisis of confidence in 2015.
On the doctor's advice, he stopped eating red meat, limited his fish intake and replaced sugar with hone in his diet.
The Argentinian poacher lost a remarkable four kilos as he went on to have the season of his life, netting 38 times in 42 games.
After nearly firing Napoli to a Serie A title win, he earned a big money move to Juventus for £75.3m a season later.
And in 2018, Paulo Dybala visited Dr Poser in an attempt to recover from injury in time for a Champions League last 16 tie against Tottenham.
While Dybala missed the first leg, he did return for the second to score the winning goal in the tie that knocked Spurs out… it seems that the doc clearly knows what he's talking about.
Hip-hop artist 42 Dugg just dropped the sequel to his ‘Young & Turnt’ mixtape, and he talks with us about his ‘Hard Times’ single, working with Lil Baby, and what he’s going to do once the quarantine is over.
“Other than the coronavirus, everything’s been good for me right now,” 42 Dugg says to HollywoodLife. The Detroit native has a reason to be feeling great. He cracked the Billboard Hot 100 for the first time with “Grace,” his collaboration with Lil Baby. He scored a spot opening for MoneyBagg Yo on the Time Served Tour (before it, like everything else in the world, got postponed due to the COVID-19 outbreak.) He also just dropped Young and Turnt 2, the follow-up to his 2019 mixtape, Young and Turnt. The new project is being jointly released on Yo Gotti’s Collective Music Group and Lil Baby’s 4 Pockets Full imprint. So, yes – outside of a global pandemic, everything is looking great for 42 Dugg.
At one time, things weren’t so cheery for the rapper (born Dion Hayes.) At one point, he was a teenager serving a six-year sentence for carjacking and felony firearms possession. While doing a stretch in solitary confinement, the then 20-year-old began writing rap songs to pass the time. A second stint in the hole awoken something within him, and he started to focus on his art. Freed in 2017, he doubled down on his hip-hop ambitions, releasing “Mama I’m Sorry” at the start of 2018. He started to blow up, self-releasing several projects. A collaboration with fellow Motor City rapper Babyface Ray produced “The Streets,” a tribute to Dugg’s fallen friend and fellow rapper, Team Eastside Snoop. The track caught the attention of Yo Gotti, and the rest was history. Young And Turnt dropped in 2019, and 2020 brings us the sequel.
While the world waits until the Time Served Tour gets rescheduled, 42 Dugg chatted with HollywoodLife about working with Lil Baby, the biggest piece of advice Yo Gotti has given him (so far), and the first thing he’s going to do once the coronavirus quarantine gets lifted.
HollywoodLife: The world has changed since the first Young and Turnt mixtape. But, what’s the most significant difference between the 42 Dugg then and the 42 Dugg on Young And Turnt 2?
42 Dugg: There’ve been a lot of ups and downs, but I feel like I’m back on track now in my career. I’ve got a lot more fans, I’ve got more money, and I’ve stopped drinking lean. Other than the coronavirus, everything’s been good for me right now.
The first single off the project, “Hard Times,” details your own story. Though people having to work from home doesn’t really compare to being in prison, it seems the message is resonating with those currently going through their own ‘hard times.’ What has the reaction been?
A lot of people have been fucking with it! A lot of people are going through what I was going through when I wrote it, so they’ve been saying they relate to it. And I know a lot of people have been going through some shit right now, so my message to them is to ‘Just keep your head up and make the best out of your situation.’
You earned your first Billboard Hot 100 entry with “Grace,” your record with Lil Baby. Now, he’s on “Not A Rapper,” alongside Yo Gotti. What’s it been like working with him?
That’s my guy. When we go to the studio, we gotta make a song, and we really don’t leave until we make at least one song. We both have come a long way in this rap shit – he got way better, I got way better, and we bounce ideas off each other. You know he’s gonna talk his shit, so I know I can’t play, and it be vice-versa. We both freestyle – we ain’t never wrote a song. Everything we do, we freestyle the songs.
Also, what’s it been like working with Yo Gotti? What would you say is the best piece of advice or wisdom that you’ve taken from working with him?
One of the biggest things he taught me is to take my music seriously, take my opportunities more seriously, and seize the moment. That’s what he’s on. He’s always making sure I’m finishing my songs, that I’m in the studio, that I’m structuring songs right, and that I’m giving my input on music videos. He taught me to take rap seriously and do what I’m supposed to do.
What’s the first thing you’re going to do once all the quarantines and “social distancing” restrictions are lifted?
I can’t wait to get back to performing and rescheduling a tour that I had with MoneyBagg Yo. And I can’t wait to hop on my dirt bike.”
The U.K. has finally ramped up its response to the coronavirus pandemic with Prime Minister Boris Johnson enacting a stay at home order. Like much of America, residents should only venture outside if absolutely necessary and if their job is considered essential. As figureheads of the U.K., the royals’ appearances aren’t really considered essential, but Prince William and Kate Middleton seem committed to continuing their outreach to organizations that deserve support.
One of William and Kate’s last appearances was at NHS111, the national healthcare service’s hotline for medical advice, on March 19. This visit came long after many countries already issued stay at home orders but shortly before the prime minister issued the U.K.’s.
While the Cambridges have relocated to Norfolk in the meantime and haven’t made a public appearance since March 19, royal commentator Richard Fitzwilliams spoke with The Express and suggested they will continue to help in some way because they have a ‘considerable responsibility’ as “morale boosters.” Richard also added that because Meghan Markle and Prince Harry are in Canada and “are likely to be sidelined,” Will and Kate will take on a bigger role.
Katie Nicholl, another royal commentator, also suggested that William is apparently expected to “step up into statesman role,” in addition to contributing to social media with Kate. (William already addressed the nation in a video last week.)
At the moment, it’s unclear if William and Kate will make more appearances, but William did allude to them continuing to highlight services that will be helpful during the pandemic. Richard added, “Their movements are obviously followed avidly by the press and social media, and they are certain to rise to the challenge of boosting morale whilst complying with the behaviour recommended by the Government.”
Queen is one of the most beloved bands of the 1970s. They’ve managed to influence many of the artists of today. You might not think it was the case, but Katy Perry says a Queen song was a huge influence over her career.
Perry loves the band’s early hit “Killer Queen.” She feels empowered listening to the song. Interestingly, Freddie Mercury had a much different attitude towards the song.
How a Queen track changed Katy Perry’s life
“Killer Queen” is an uncharacteristic Queen song. It’s melody recalls the Beatles more than the band’s other work. However, it does feature Mercury’s trademark sense of humor. “Killer Queen” might not be the most famous or popular Queen song, but it had a tremendous impact on Perry.
Raised in a Christian household, Perry recalls how she wasn’t allowed to listen to secular music. She remembers listening to popular music only when she was at a friend’s house. One day, Perry’s friend introduced her to the song “Killer Queen.”
She said the track hit her like a “shockwave.” When she listened to it, she felt like life was in slow motion. Perry said the song made her want to be the woman she is today.
Perry remembers how the song “made me discover music and helped me come into my own at the age of 15. The way Freddie Mercury delivered his lyrics just made me feel like a confident woman; I’d say his fingerprint is all over me in general. And I also love the idea of a woman who reigns and has power, like Queen Elizabeth in the UK.”
Perry enjoyed the song so much she named one of her perfumes after it. She used the song’s title as the name of her perfume because she felt she was finally growing into the “powerful” woman in the song. While Perry said the song makes her feel like a “confident woman,” her interpretation of the track is not Mercury’s interpretation.
How Freddie Mercury interpreted the song
Mercury never said he intended “Killer Queen” as a female empowerment song. Instead, he said the song was about a prostitute. “It’s about a high class call girl. I’m trying to say that classy people can be whores as well. That’s what the song is about, though I’d prefer people to put their interpretation upon it – to read into it what they like.”
The song also portrays the title character as out-of-touch like Marie Antoinette. Interestingly, Perry portrayed Antoinette in her video “Hey Hey Hey.” Was that a coincidence? Perry hasn’t connected “Hey Hey Hey” to “Killer Queen,” so fans can only speculate.
Mercury said people can interpret “Killer Queen” how they like. Perry has followed suit. It’s fascinating to see how two musicians could understand one song so differently. Would Perry feel the same way about the song if she interpreted it the same way he did?
Also see:Why Did An Original Member of Queen Lash Out Over ‘Bohemian Rhapsody’?
We’re having to be creative when it comes to recreating our favourite foods under the Covid-19 lockdown.
Now that we can no longer pop to Starbucks and Pret for our usual bevvies, iced coffee-loving TikTokkers have found a clever way of making the popular drink at home.
The formula has been doing the rounds on the video-sharing app where users claim it’s just like the real thing, as in store-bought, while others say it tastes rank.
So I tried it out at home (where else?) to see if it’s worth the faff.
Because resources are scarce, I sacrificed the last bit of my milk so you don’t have to experiment, in case this DIY drink actually tastes horrible.
I’m happy to report it is actually quite a refreshing and tasty treat that you should try for yourself.
All you need to make your own is all your normal caffeine essentials; instant coffee, sugar, hot water, milk and ice.
Although it’s custom to share a strict recipe and instructions when making something, many TikTokkers just winged it and added however much of each ingredient they think is normal to include in an iced coffee.
After watching a few videos, I too decided to throw in however much I wanted and it turned out pretty good.
So, begin by adding one tablespoon of boiling water to a tablespoon of instant coffee and granulated sugar.
Now mix it together and start whisking until it turns into a Nutella-like consistency.
How to survive having teenagers at home: Experts share advice for parents in lockdown with grown-up children – including having daily ‘check-ins’ and using ‘I’ instead of ‘you’
Families across the UK are in lockdown, including those with teenage children
Teenagers used to freedom might be particularly challenging to have at home
Experts have shared their advice on how to maintain a happy household
Families across the UK are in lockdown, which means parents are spending more time than ever with their children.
While mothers and fathers with active toddlers and younger children are fighting to keep them entertained, those with teenagers and ‘grown-up’ children who have returned home are finding themselves navigating their own tricky circumstances.
Teenagers and adult children, particularly those at university or who have left home, are used to a far greater level of freedom than they can currently enjoy.
Hannah Martin, a British psychotherapist and founder of the Talented Ladies Club, explained: ‘Teenagers are used to more freedom – and for many their friends are everything to them. They’re also likely to be worried about what’s happening to the world around them, especially if they’ve been robbed of their exams and the parties afterwards.
‘Add this into a swirling mix of hormones and desire to challenge authority and you have a difficult mix for parents trapped indoors with them.’
FEMAIL spoke to Hannah and family counsellor Peter Saddington, of UK-based charity Relate, who shared practical steps every parent can take to help maintain the peace while in lockdown.
Families across the UK are in lockdown, which means parents are spending more time than ever with their children. An expert shared advice for surviving with teenagers. Stock image
Help them understand the rules
Hannah said: ‘First of all, it’s important to remember that no one likes being told what to do but teenagers have a deep aversion to it. So rather than simply laying down the law, “or else” try to help them understand why we need to take these measures.
Encourage then to watch the news with you, and try to get them to see that we all need to rally together to protect the vulnerable and elderly.
‘If you have elderly relatives or friends, you can even bring this home with personal examples. For example, “Wouldn’t you hate it if granny fell sick and died? We need to help protect her by staying in for a while”.’
It is a good idea to establish boundaries regarding a teenager or adult child behaviour. For example, you might want to consider discussing how much time your child spends on their phone or alone in their room.
Build a structure
A structure can often reduce anxiety as it provides consistency at a time when there are constant changes. University students may have some guidance about what work they should be doing and so they can build a structure around this.
Adult children may have things to work on if emails are coming in or they have pieces of work to do at home.
Offering advice to children, Mr Saddington said: ‘You’re wanting to build in a structure so you’ve got time for connecting with your friends, you’ve got time for exercise, you’ve got time for healthy stuff but you’ve also got to start building in schedule about when you’re going to keep up with work.’
Any time alone should be balanced with time together as a family. Make clear that everyone will come together for meals, or spend time together in the evenings after dinner. Then there’s an expectation for the family to spend time together.
Mr Saddington added: ‘It’s that negotiating about what’s individual, what’s family and what’s the interpersonal bit between you and the young person.’
Give them options
Hannah said: ‘Try to give them options as much as possible – even if it’s an illusion of choice – so they can have a sense of control over their situation.
‘For example, “Would you like to go for a walk around the park with me this morning or afternoon?” And give them treats to look forward to as much as possible. If you can get their favourite food, do.’
Try to avoid being confrontational by using ‘I’ rather than ‘you’ when speaking. Stock image
Have daily ‘check-ins’
Make sure at least one parent checks-in with the child every day. Taking time each day to ask about their day and how they are feeling gives the child an opportunity to share any worries or concerns they might have.
Mr Saddington said: ‘It’s very easy when you’re looking at the Internet to feel more anxious because there’s different news coming out all the time.
Use ‘I’ rather than ‘you’ when speaking
Mr Saddington said the language you use to communicate with each other is really important as it sets the tone for the conversation.
It can be beneficial, for example, to use ‘I’ statements instead of ‘you’ statements.
Instead of saying ‘you’re always on the phone, you never listen to us’, you can say ‘I’ve been worried about how you’re going to manage’.
It is also important to allow time to listen to what your child has to say. Mr Saddington advised asking ‘what do you think you need from us?’ and ‘what do you think you’re going to do to help the family in this situation?’ rather than ‘we need you to do this’ and ‘you’re not doing that’.
‘It’s very easy by talking to friends to have a heightened tension. Whereas some friends will be saying this, some friends will be saying that.’
A daily check-in is beneficial for both sides as the adult knows what the young adult is worried about and they know there’s an expectation to share worries every day.
Encourage contact with friends
It’s easier for teenagers than children in this lockdown period as they’re used to having remote contact with their friends on social media.
Parents should encourage their children to stay in contact with people who are important to them.
It would also help parents to have their own group of friends who they can call and who can support them.
Mr Saddington said: ‘It’s recognising everybody in the family needs their own support network. It might not be the same for each person.’
Hannah added: ‘If they do get cross or lash out, use empathy to calm them down, rather than responding back with more anger. For example, “I know you feel angry and frustrated that you can’t see your friends now. And it is unfair, I get it. It’s not the same I know, but why don’t you FaceTime them?”‘